As someone who lives with migraines, I’ve grown accustomed to my brain’s unpredictable moods. Some days it’s all sunshine and rainbows, but other days… well, let’s just say it’s a good thing I have a stash of chocolate cake hidden away.
Recently, I found myself in the midst of one of those “bad” days. The kind where every little sound feels like fingernails on a chalkboard and even the thought of putting on a happy face is exhausting. And then there was the concert to look forward to that evening… or not.
My husband had planned a special night out, complete with babysitter booked and outfit picked out. But my brain (and my body) had other plans. I woke up feeling like a woodpecker was tapping away at my head – no joke! Thankfully, I was able to stave off the migraine by taking my abortive medicine on time.
But as the day went on, I knew that venturing out into the loud and bright world would only trigger another attack. And so, with a heavy heart, I made the difficult decision to stay in and prioritize my own well-being. “Honey, I think you should go without me,” I told my husband.
His confusion and disappointment were palpable – who wouldn’t want to spend a night out with their loved one? But as someone living with an invisible disorder like migraines, it’s not always easy to explain why sometimes self-care means putting myself first. It’s not just about getting a manicure or taking a relaxing bath; it’s about preserving my mental and physical health.
In the end, I chose a date night in with me – yes, you read that right! I got some much-needed rest, and later, my husband texted pictures from the concert, so in a way, we did get to experience it together. And the best part? No woodpeckers in sight!
Living with migraines means constantly navigating the ups and downs of this mysterious thing called life. But by prioritizing self-care and taking control of my own well-being, I’m not just looking out for myself – I’m also being kind to those around me who love and support me.
So the next time you hear someone talking about their invisible disability or chronic illness, remember that it’s not always about doing things “the usual” way. Sometimes, self-care means putting yourself first, and that’s okay.
